us civics, frick museum, wiscon

Apr. 22nd, 2025 03:08 pm
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[personal profile] tozka
Good afternoon, happy Tuesday! I finally spotted the morning doves again-- well, actually, one of the landed on the back porch and made eye contact with me through the sliding glass door, and then another dove dive-bombed the first one and they both flew off. Fun!

Got some links for y'all here! I'm experimenting with formatting this time. Is this easier to read, or worse?


[personal profile] siderea did an informal poll about some of the differences in educational systems in the US, with regards specifically to when civics was taught.

I did most of my schooling in Maryland and I took a civics class in 9th or 10th grade, but I'm pretty sure we went over some stuff before then in elementary school/middle school. We had mock presidential elections, for instance, so I'm sure we at least went over the stuff about voting.

I also remember seeing the Schoolhouse Rock video about how bills are passed, but I honestly can't remember where along my educational timeline it happened. I AM fairly certain a teacher showed it to us, though!

More links under here )
Need more stuff to read? I've compiled all previous linkspam posts here on my website or of course you can explore the linkspam tag below.

Me-and-media update

Apr. 22nd, 2025 06:20 pm
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[personal profile] china_shop
Previous poll review
In the vegetables poll, 90.4% of respondents clicked fresh vegetables (bought), 46.2% clicked frozen vegetables, and 44.2% clicked fresh vegetables (homegrown). I was surprised; I thought more people would go frozen for the convenience. (I wonder what that says, if anything, about Dreamwidth demographics.)

In ticky-boxes, hugs came first with 78.8%, followed by a tie between "hanging in there until things settle down and I can sort my life out" and "sunbeams playing in a tree, daring each other to peek around the shadowed side" with 63.5% each. Thank you for your votes!

Reading
Still going on The Horse and His Boy (I am slow and distractable) and the Guardian novel read-along (it's on a schedule). Nothing in audio.

Kdramas
We started Tale of the Nine Tailed, a sweeping epic about a powerful immortal, the reincarnated love of his life, and his bratty younger brother. (Nothing at all like Guardian the novel, why do you ask?) I'm hoping it has enough plot and worldbuilding to hold Andrew's interest; he gets bored during extended romance scenes.

More of Sell Your Haunted House with Pru. And in solo-watching, I started Heesu in Class 2; it's pretty adorable, but also Heesu is the living embodiment of Idiots In Love, and sometimes I have to watch through my fingers.

Other TV
This week's Doctor Who
was very silly and meta, set against a background of ominous racism. Hm. But I did enjoy the jokes, and Belinda is great.


Episode 1 of Sherlock & Daughter. We were just going to try out the first ten minutes to get a sense of it, but we ended up watching the whole episode. I can forgive Holmes for being a grumpy old man when he has a reason for it.

Our Deadloch rewatch-with-a-friend continues, plus Jentry Chau vs the Underworld, about which I still have no opinion.

My sister and I watched Into the Night (1985 film; Michelle Pfeiffer, Jeff Goldblum, and a vast number of film directors as extras, the only one of whom I knew on sight was Jim Henson). The caper was silly, and the romance plotline was very thin, but Goldblum and Pfeiffer are so watchable that it hung together despite the weird pacing when it lingered on random extras we were supposed to recognise. Lovely to see David Bowie in a small (albeit violently psychotic) role.

Guardian/Fandom
I archived my Murderbot flashficlet, and wow, Murderbot fans are generous with their kudosing. *hearts so much* (In my experience, some fandoms are just more kudosy than others.)

Audio entertainment
I listened my way through all of The Setup, a romance audiodrama about Juan, an anxious art museum curator in NYC, and Fernando, the con artist who's trying to steal a painting. It's great! I'm really into it. And then I got to the end of the available episodes and realised it's not finished yet, ahhhhh! I need to check these things before I start!

(Is it just me or are depictions of anxiety becoming more common in romances? I feel like there's some wish fulfilment going on: people longing to meet The One who is hot, super into them, and will also be incredibly kind and patient and give them effective tips for handling their panic attacks. Not that romances aren't all about wish fulfilment, so why not? Add dimensions to your dream partner!)

Writing/making things
My little 4k exchange fic is becoming somewhat tortured by all the writing advice I'm trying to enact on it. Hopefully I'm not engineering the spark out of the thing. Also, hopefully I emerge from this process wiser and more capable. (It could happen!) Note to self: this story still doesn't have an ending, oops.

Other than that, I'm spending a lot of my life rolling around in meta discussions, yay!

Life/health/mental state things
Oh, look, let's not even talk about it. /o\

Note to self: I had a flu jab on Saturday.

Online life
I'm switching ISPs on Friday. Wish me luck! If I disappear off the face of the internet, that will be why.

Food
Today marks my first attempt at baked potatoes in the slow cooker. *fingers crossed* I forgot to prickle them with a fork before I wrapped them in foil, so who knows.

Good things
Fandom. Writing. Lunchtime dumplings on the back deck. Cephalopod plushies. Queer audiodramas. Friends coming over to watch stuff. Guardian. Home-made salsa. Trivia quizzes. Music and kindness and laughter and love.

Poll #33020 face blindness extrapolation
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 45


Do you have face-blindness?

View Answers

yes
2 (4.4%)

technically no, but it's not unusual for me to get people confused
24 (53.3%)

especially when they're dressed the same
14 (31.1%)

no
12 (26.7%)

I mix up similar usernames
14 (31.1%)

honestly, they don't have to be that similar
12 (26.7%)

other
2 (4.4%)

ticky-box full of black cats slinking mysteriously in the shadows
29 (64.4%)

ticky-box full of starting a howl
15 (33.3%)

ticky-box of overthinking
22 (48.9%)

ticky-box full of squirrel-dragons with floofy tails, guarding their golden acorns
22 (48.9%)

ticky-box full of hugs
34 (75.6%)

Dictionary words

Apr. 21st, 2025 10:44 pm
[personal profile] cosmolinguist

The one thing about discord that I wish I could get on Signal is different names for different group chats. I'm the only Firstname Lastname LinkedIn-sona in this new trans group I've joined; everyone else has a single lowercase noun for a name, like a normal person.

I hosted a hybrid meeting today, and when D asked who was coming, the names I gave him were one animal, two vegetable, and one mineral.

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[personal profile] tozka
Happy Monday! It's pretty windy out today and I haven't see any of my usual animal friends (weird squirrel, quail family, morning dove horde) so I'm assuming they're hiding from the pollen. So am I, tbh.

First up, art! Here's a wonderbread manatee from [tumblr.com profile] oddarette

Next, links!

Business Insider has an introspective article about the decline in quality of Lonely Planet guidebooks over the years.

Podcasting 101, which has all the stuff you'll need to just get started-- not worrying about making a commercial product or whatever, just getting your podcast off the ground.

I liked this post about realizing that human interaction has value, and that "Google it" isn't always the best thing to say.

From [tumblr.com profile] formlessvoidbeast: I am King Big Dick of Fanfic Mountain (h/t The Rec Center) (also saved to my commonplace notebook here because I liked it so much)

Here's a tech-focused solarpunk Discord server to explore. I like how they have activities that aren't just coding (or whatever).

A new Project Gutenberg release that caught my eye: The up-to-date sandwich book: 400 ways to make a sandwich by Eva Greene Fuller! Definitely downloading and adding it to my cookbook collection.

I found another "old web search engine": Marginalia Search-- but it actually pulls up newer stuff-- and it even pulled up a Dreamwidth post! I NEVER see DW posts on Ecosia or Google or whatever, unless I specifically look for them.

Finally, some RSS feeds I've subscribed to recently:
clover.poe, a "a literary blog dedicated to submissions of #poetry, #prose, #essay, #photography and other digital artworks by internet users."

The IndieBlog directory has RSS feeds where you can get random posts for the day or week from blogs in its collection.

anhvn.com -- her weeknotes posts are charming!

My ListenBrainz account has an RSS feed...so I guess if you want to see what I'm listening to, you can do it without needing an account there! I have that feed set to show the latest 30 minutes of listens, but if you adjust the minutes you can see up to 8 hours' worth of music.

Interested in more links? I've compiled all previous linkspam posts here on my website.

Come speak to me of Second Person POV

Apr. 21st, 2025 05:44 pm
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The Writing Excuses podcast is doing a series on voice (first, third limited, third omniscient), and mostly their discussions have been great. I've enjoyed them a lot. But I found today's episode on second person (2ndPOV) unsatisfying. They got distracted talking about video games, TTRPG, online recipe essays, and Youtube influencers, and when they did discuss fictional prose, they seemed to think the "you" character had to be a reader stand-in. (Or maybe I misunderstood? Quite possible!) Anyway, now I'm itching to procrastinate on my story talk with like-minded souls about the joys of second person.

Note: If you not into 2ndPOV, that's totally cool. Each to their own! But please don't chime in to tell me or explain why; I'm not interested in defending it today.

Rambling, so much rambling. )

ION, Andrew sent me a link to Secrets of Writing Snappy Dialogue (Banter) (Youtube video). At first I was resistant, but then I watched it and now I'm overhauling my 4k fic AGAIN. This is killing me, lol.

Getting mad AND organizing

Apr. 19th, 2025 09:57 pm
[personal profile] cosmolinguist

I'm wondering where I can find the UK transmasc organizing. (It is probably happening on reddit or bluesky or something that I don't have an account on, I know, sigh.)

Trans mascs/men's specific oppression under the supreme court ruling should be highlighted for itself, not in relation to trans women/fems' oppression, like as an abstract "beards in ladies loos" threat/stunt. (I'm sympathetic to the desire to "gotcha" the incoherent bigotry, but there are transmascs (yes even ones growing facial hair) who are already using the ladies' room because that's the way their safety calculations end up. Also I don't love the idea that beards or any other symbol of masculinity is inherently antithetical to, or exclusive of, femininity.)

Not only do TERFs talk about their "sisters" and "daughters" being swayed into "mutilating their bodies by gender ideology," books discussing this have been international bestsellers. Transphobic writers like Jesse Singal have made a career from anti-transmasculinity as well as transmisogyny.

One of the ways the UKSC ruling seems incoherent (from what I understand, I haven't read it all) is that while it says trans women should be excluded from women's spaces, it also says trans men should be excluded from women's spaces because of the "masculinising" effects of the testosterone we are all presumed to take. (This isn't surprising at least -- the TERFery that informed the decision takes a zero tolerance approach to testosterone -- but it never gets less baffling.)

This leaves trans men/mascs in a very weird position.

For example, can transmascs be removed from women's refuges if they take testosterone because it might "trigger" "survivors" (a status that of course no transmasc person could have, in this worldview)...? And of course I agree that a women's refuge isn't a great place for a transmasc person! But neither can we be left to just fend for ourselves around domestic violence.

A friend joked that if we can't be held in either male or female prison populations does this mean we can't be jailed, but their partner pointed out that transmasc people would likely just be held in solitary confinement.

Anyway. It occurred to me that most of the trans community I have -- certainly the activisty part -- is transfem, so before and after yesterday's protest I made some efforts to find both more trans advocacy and more transmasc community.

I'm in more WhatsApp groups and Discord servers now (sigh...especially because discord has found a new way to be inaccessible for me today! I literally can't scroll downwards!q), but I have plans to join some in-person gatherings this week too.

a daily occurrence

Apr. 19th, 2025 01:21 pm
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[personal profile] tozka
me: "why is my computer running so slow"

me: "oh I have too many tabs open in my browser, I should go through them and either bookmark them or close them"

me: *looks at one tab which has 10 interesting links which then get opened into their own tabs*

me: "why is my computer running so slow"

later

me: "there's too many tabs in this window, and I can't do anything, I'll open another window and then I won't get overwhelmed"

me: *opens 20 more tabs in the new window*

computer: *desperately trying to give browser more processing power*

computer fan: *loud as fuck*

me: "why is this computer so shitty"

even later

me: "there's too many browser windows open on this desktop. I'll move some to a second desktop."

computer: *screaming for help*

And that's how I currently have 7 browser windows with 160 tabs open across 3 desktops 💀

big ol' spideypool fanfic recs list

Apr. 19th, 2025 11:20 am
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[personal profile] tozka
I lost count of how many fics are on here, but it's definitely over 70 fics. :D

Also posted to my fanfic recs section on my site here. I think you should be able to use Calibre's Fanficfare plugin to download these fics in bulk with the "get story URL from webpage" option, if you wanted to.

Key: Title by author [word count, rating] Summary and/or Notes

Normally I would include a pairing note, but these are literally **all Spideypool** (Spiderman/Deadpool). Also I have to say that coming up with summaries for these was SUPER difficult, as mostly they're character-heavy emotional development stuff based on either the comics or the movies or a mix thereof, so I copied some of the shorter author-provided summaries. ._.

#HeySpiderMan by Jenetica [13.5k, E] Pretend boyfriends fic!

The 6 Times Peter Wanted To Reveal his Identity (And the 1 Time He Did) by Spongeekat [28.4k, M] "Or Peter is madly in love with Wade, and plans to meet him on top of his apartment building to reveal his identity. Wade thinks Peter is standing on the ledge ready to jump, and takes it upon himself to make sure he gets home safe and finds a reason to live again." Identity-porn!

32 Tacos And A Kiss by Devral, SpiderKatana [10.6k, T] Wade gets a crush on his delivery guy, aka Peter.

Acrid (In Pursuit of Wade) by misshunbun [6.6k, E] Peter accidentally upsets Wade.

a luxury few can afford by three-fingered (calciseptine) [15.1k, E] Peter tries to hire Wade for a case. Case fic!

the rest is under here! )
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[personal profile] tozka
Link: Welcome to Garbagetown (author Catherynne M. Valente's Substack) (2022)

I’m so tired of just harmlessly getting together with other weird geeks and going to what amounts to a digital pub after work and waking up one day to find every pint poisoned. Over and over again. Like the poison wants us specifically. Like it knows we will always make its favorite food: vulnerability, connection, difference. I’m so tired of lunch photos and fanfic and stupid jokes and keeping in touch with family across time zones and making friends and starting cottage industries and pursuing hobbies and meeting soulmates and expressing thoughts and creating identities and loving TV shows and reading books and getting to know a few of your heroes and raising kids and making bookshelves and knitting and painting and fixing sinks and first dates and homemade jam and, yes, figuring out what Buffy characters we are, listening and learning and hoping and just fucking talking to each other weaponized against us. Having our enthusiasm over the smallest joys of everyday life invaded by people who long ago forgot their value and turned into fodder for the death of thought, the burial of love.

These were our spaces, little people who just wanted to connect. And one by one, they get turned into battlefields where we have to fight just as hard to exist as we do in the real world. And every time a few more people you never thought the Absorbaloff of hatred and gleeful sadism would slurp up don’t come along to the next safe place, and start trying to take it away before anyone can get there.

How dare they? How dare they take everyday life and load it into a cannon just to fire it back in our faces?


This was written back in 2022 but is still relevant today, tbh. Tumblr...sigh.

And ironically (maybe) Substack is definitely on the path to ruining its own community-- it's luring in writers and users and trying to get them to form communities and maybe in a year or two they'll start charging for stuff or increasing fees or whatever. Anyway.

Added to my Commonplace Notebook April 19, 2025

Trans rights and trans joy

Apr. 18th, 2025 10:55 pm
[personal profile] cosmolinguist

D and I went to a trans demo in town and then stayed out drinking because it's our anniversary and we like to celebrate by re-creating how we got together: it took a pub crawl for us to fess up to our feelings for each other after a dozen years or so of being those good friends who everyone just thinks are a couple.

I'm in a couple more WhatsApp/Discord groups now for trans stuff, there's plans for wider organizing around the shittiness lately, and I'm as in love with D as ever. It's been a good day, making and reinforcing connections

quickie links post

Apr. 18th, 2025 10:25 am
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[personal profile] tozka
A few time-sensitive events that I wanted to boost:
[personal profile] spiralsheep is hosting a 10 week readalong of Aurora Australis, the first book written and published in the Antarctic.

All Out Earth Day is happening April 19th, with additional events April 18-30.

ADDED: 50501 protests are happening April 19th! (h/t [personal profile] conuly)

ADDED: International Dark Sky Week is April 21-28, 2025.

ADDED: [personal profile] corvidology posted a list of upcoming fic/fanart exchanges!

The LibraryThing Spring Treasure Hunt has begun! It runs through April 30th.

And here's some new pages I've added to my website over the last few weeks:
1. Vermeer Painting Location Tracker, plus a more basic Vermeer checklist
2. An extensive list of virtual museum tours
3. Some travel tips for London
4. A projects and to-do's list
5. A WIP guide to frugal living, which is mostly a space for me to go on a rant about various things like consumerism and the BS of the 2008 recession, but also some great recommendations for books, videos, and websites

community thursday (mar. 20-apr. 16)

Apr. 17th, 2025 08:14 pm
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[personal profile] tozka
I'm determined to keep up with this, so here's a month of Thursdays, more or less...original Community Thursday info/idea here, with thanks to the creator! Basically, I'm going to be doing "community stuff" (posting, commenting, linking) throughout the week and then tallying it here, plus linking to any new-to-me interesting communities I find.

Commented at [community profile] recthething with two Reservoir Dogs fic recs

Commented at [community profile] 1word1day for Ogival (fantastic word)

Commented at [community profile] smallweb about some site updates I've been working on

Commented on the weekly [community profile] booknook reading Wednesday post plus responded to other commenters

New-to-me Communities
[community profile] ginnhale -- a community for fans of author Ginn Hale!
[community profile] all_worlds_of_mccaffrey -- a community for fans of author Anne McCaffrey! (and another [personal profile] senmut community that I stumbled upon randomly ;D )
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[personal profile] tozka
Good morning! Here's some music to start off your day:



Lovely singing, lovely music (bright and cheerful), featuring the national instrument of Puerto Rico, the cuatro!

More concerts can be found under this tag (media: music) here on DW, or else on the concerts collection page at my site.

Lot going on

Apr. 17th, 2025 02:53 pm
[personal profile] cosmolinguist

Something about this description of the upcoming weekend just made me laugh:

This weekend already has a fair amount going on, Nazis will be celebrating Hitler's birthday, stoners will be smoking weed, Christians will be at church and also the trains through Stockport are all down.

The train thing is as relevant to organizing a protest as all the others (I wouldn't want to omit that a Jewish holiday is going on too!), but it's just such a wild combination of things.

ai tarpit, free books, citrus con

Apr. 16th, 2025 05:23 pm
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[personal profile] tozka
Hello, happy Wednesday! I saw a family of quail come out from some shrubbery earlier and I've been floating on a high of bird-happiness all day.

Citrus Con is a free online BL/queer fan convention happening June 20-22, 2025! Grab your ticket before June 19, 2025.

Tumblr (or rather its parent company Automattic) is having some recent troubles (also here) and laid off 16% of its staff.

A few new guides posted to [community profile] newcomers recently:
[personal profile] soc_puppet wrote a guide to mood themes, how to back up your Tumblr account and alternatives to talking in the tags

[personal profile] ysabetwordsmith wrote about how to post fiction or other writing-- a really good resource for people who are used to only posting on AO3 or other similar websites-- and how to find your Tumblr friends on DW

I've really been enjoying [personal profile] rachelmanija's book review posts, and have added several of them to my wishlist/TBR list. (She writes really good books herself, too!)

Here's a few recent releases on Project Gutenberg that're available for free download:
1. The intelligent woman's guide to socialism and capitalism by (George) Bernard Shaw, yes that GBS. Here's the Wikipedia article about the book.
2. "This was a man" : A comedy in three acts by Noël Coward
3. A doctor enjoys Sherlock Holmes by Edward J. Van Liere
Isis Unveiled by H. P. Blavatsky (Helena Petrovna Blavatsky) Volume 1 and Volume 2 (Wikipedia entry here)

A few AI-related links:
[personal profile] erinptah posted a great LLM (AI) news roundup from the past few months.

From Bloomberg: The AI Romance Factory, about an AI startup trying to flood the romance book market with dreck. (h/t The Rec Center)

You can fight AI in indie publishing by leaving reviews from [tumblr.com profile] hazeldomain (h/t [tumblr.com profile] dduane)

And an article from Ars Technica: AI haters build tarpits to trap and trick AI scrapers that ignore robots.txt:

Aaron clearly warns users that Nepenthes is aggressive malware. It's not to be deployed by site owners uncomfortable with trapping AI crawlers and sending them down an "infinite maze" of static files with no exit links, where they "get stuck" and "thrash around" for months, he tells users. Once trapped, the crawlers can be fed gibberish data, aka Markov babble, which is designed to poison AI models. That's likely an appealing bonus feature for any site owners who, like Aaron, are fed up with paying for AI scraping and just want to watch AI burn.


A few RSS feeds I've added to my reader this week:
r/Frugal
r/Composting
Low-Tech Magazine (English feed)

Interested in more links? I've compiled all previous linkspam posts here on my website.

reading wednesday

Apr. 16th, 2025 09:19 am
tozka: Dawn (from Buffy) reading a book with a starry background (buffy dawn with stars)
[personal profile] tozka
2025 Reading Log | 12/200 yearly goal

This morning I finished How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy by Jenny Odell, which I started reading on my last Reading Wednesday post.

I REALLY enjoyed it. It's not actually a how-to book, despite the title, but more a meditation on how technology, social media and capitalism influences us and our relationship with nature/each other.

Basically, the author says that to resist the attention economy we have to put that attention elsewhere, and more specifically into real life, in-person things. The goal shouldn't be to completely remove yourself from society (or even social media), but to figure out a way to live in it and to CHANGE it for the better (for everyone). We are responsible for one another and we need to help one another, and you can't do that by living in the woods as a hermit (more or less).

There's a lot to think about. I especially liked how she came at it not from a tech person saying that endless scrolling is good, actually, or from a business manager trying to convince you to not quiet quit, but from an artist's perspective of someone who is ALSO in the trenches with all this stuff. It's not a "how to be productive even when you don't want to be" book, it straight-up says DON'T be "productive" and instead go look at birds for a bit, without the goal of recharging to get back into work raring to go.

The end has an enormous references section filled with amazingly interesting books, so that'll be fun to add to my to-read list.

telecommunications meme

Apr. 15th, 2025 04:18 pm
tozka: Two hands reaching for a flip phone (vaporwave cell phone)
[personal profile] tozka
I found this post on MetaFilter about telecommunication culture and habits and it had a little questionnaire that I thought it'd be fun to answer over here:

Demographics: late 30s white person, mostly grew up on the East Coast and now technically living on the West Coast (albeit as a full-time traveling catsitter at the moment).

1. Do you text before calling?
I even always text someone a "hey I'm going to call you" before doing it; I never just call someone, not even my own family.

2. Do you avoid phone calls in general?
Yes, in general, but it was much worse when I was younger, where I was almost too anxious to actually do it. Then I was forced to make calls as part of my job (library calling people to come pick up their holds) so I got used to ignoring the anxiety.

Now I can do it without stressing as much, and I'll even call (local) businesses if I think I can get a quicker answer than an email.

In specific: I do schedule regular phone calls with my parents, and my brother calls me twice a year (we do text a lot between). I also do phone calls with pet owners, but otherwise all my other friends just use chat apps or texting to keep in touch.

3. Do you do phone calls in public settings?
Yes, but it's not my favorite and I try to find a quiet place to talk. I once had a phone call on a bus (10 years ago) and felt self-conscious the whole time, and haven't repeated the experience.

I despise hearing other people's conversations, despite being a fairly nosy person in general. It feels invasive, especially when they put it to speakerphone and don't tell the person on the other end that everyone can hear them.

4. Do you let calls or texts interrupt in-person conversations?
Not normally, no. I usually have my phone on silent anyway when I'm having a conversation with someone.

On the other hand, if the other person is on their phone the whole time then I'll be on mine, too. (My family has a bad habit of this.)

5. Do you refrain from calling or texting during certain hours?
I don't text people enough to need to restrict it to certain hours. On the other hand, I much prefer making phone calls in the morning vs. afternoon or evening. I'll try to schedule calls for earlier in the day if possible.

6. Do you turn off your texting or voice call sounds / notifications at certain hours?
My phone is set to go to silent/do not disturb mode automatically at 7pm and turn off at 7am. However, I do still text after 7pm (if I feel like it) I just don't have the sound going off.

To extend on this: I also have it set to silence incoming calls from people not on my contacts lists, which means all spammers are silenced and unfortunately so is everyone else. But I do check my voicemail somewhat regularly so I can catch people who aren't spammers.

7. Do you have a land line, smart phone or dumb phone? Do you use them differently?
I only have a smart phone. I had a land line as a child into young adulthood, but my parents go rid of that soon after cell phones became more popular. Maybe 2008?

As for email: I'd like people to email me more but I can't get anyone to respond to me IN my email. If I email my mother she'll respond in text. If I email my brother he responds on Discord. etc. etc.

Some indie web bloggers have a "respond by email" link on their posts and I'm thisclose to actually doing it. I think it just feels so formal that there's an intimidation factor to actually doing it, vs. just responding on social media or something.

Me-and-media update

Apr. 16th, 2025 08:34 am
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[personal profile] china_shop
Previous poll review
In the Lists poll, 59.3% of respondents make to-do lists on their phone/computer/device, 40.7% use scraps of paper, and 18.5% have a planner or other organisational system. (These options are obviously not mutually exclusive.) "I park items on my to-do list so I don't have to worry about forgetting them" was the most popular purpose of to-do lists, with 61.1%, followed by 44.4% who refer to their to-do lists and try to complete the items thereon, and 24.1% who agree with me that "putting an item on the list is sort of the same as doing the thing."

In ticky-boxes, hugs came first with 75.9%, followed by a near-four-way tie. Thank you for your votes! <3

Reading
Am I reading anything except Guardian? Doesn't seem like it. ETA: Just started A Horse and his Boy by C.S. Lewis.

Kdramas Asian dramas
I'm watching my first Japanese drama, Aoshima-kun is a Bully!, on VIKI. It's a sweet m/f office romance with a 9-year age gap. The production values aren't super-shiny, but it hangs together fine. I like older woman/younger man stories for a number of reasons; it might be the first drama I've seen where the woman is like, yes, I do like you, and it's nice when you stay over, but also I really miss having tons of alone time. And I like that the male lead keeps turning to his two step-mothers for relationship advice, aw. Non-standard family relationships for the win!

More of the Sell Your Haunted House rewatch.

Other TV
Finished The Pitt, which was as excellent as everyone's been saying. The ending felt earned, and I'm glad they gave it space to breathe. Now Andrew and I are floundering a bit, unsure what to watch next. (We've spent the last couple of evenings listening to Youtube writing lectures, see below.) We're up to episode 3 of Doc, which is fine but by-the-numbers, and suffers greatly in comparison to The Pitt.

Still watching Krapopolis. Losing interest in Ghosts (UK), though it's interesting discussing why it isn't working for us. Started The Dope Thief, but I was finding the bad decisions and impending disaster too stressful and couldn't finish episode 1. The new Doctor Who, which, the main characters were great, and everything else feels messy to me.

A friend came over, and we watched the first episodes of Deadloch (a rewatch for me) and Jentry Chau vs the Underworld which I was too tired to judge.

Also: Frankie and Johnny (1985) starring Michelle Pfeiffer and Al Pacino, a romance in which the female lead should have taken out a restraining order (interesting comparing it to Aoshima-kun, in which "mature woman stays single" is presented as a viable choice, not a death sentence), and Dead Again (1991) a "neo-noir romantic thriller" starring Emma Thompson and Kenneth Branagh as reincarnated lovers who look identical to their past-life selves (so I couldn't help connecting the dots to Guardian in that regard). Neither film has aged well.

Guardian/Fandom
Working on my 520 Day Guardian fic. Having some lovely discussions on [community profile] sid_guardian. Didn't sign up for [community profile] bitesizedfandomsex in the end, because the sign-up summary didn't look promising. That's okay.

Audio entertainment
Writing Excuses this week was about 3rd person omniscient, and it made me go back and start to re-read this week's Guardian chapters with voice in mind. Wow, priest is so good at this. It feels very natural, even to me who mostly reads 3rd limited. The example that came to mind most when I was listening to the podcast was actually The Spear Cuts Through Water, where a lot of the omniscient/non-main-character voices are there to support the worldbuilding and theme; that works so well. But in Guardian, it's not a theme thing; priest is just telling the story.

The Daily Stoic on Virtue Ethics, which wasn't as explanatory as I was hoping.

And a bunch of Brandon Sanderson's Youtube lectures on plotting which, as I've mentioned previously, I'm trying to apply to a 4k fic. (I broke it into segments and reassembled them, theoretically with more build/progression; now let's see if this thing will fly.)

Writing/making things
My writing energy is pretty good. I'm getting things done and having a good time doing so. I have two things I want to finish this week (one is most of the way there; the other, I'd be happy if I could get a complete draft), and if I have time after that, I'll write another flashfic for the Pink round on [community profile] fan_flashworks. I'm thinking of doing something with P!nk song titles or lyrics.

Life/health/mental state things
I seem to be permanently not on top of things, ahhhhh! How is it mid-April already?? Every so often I look at my consolidated to-do list and go, "Okay, okay, I did a couple of these by accident, I can cross them off." I don't think that's how to-do lists are supposed to work.

I did manage to get my four-year term submission in yesterday, so that's something. (It was very cranky.)

Cats
Halle's on 3x daily medication for the next 5-7 days. She is so good about it. I can't get over how chill and compliant she is, especially compared to our previous demon siblings.

Korean
I got a bilingual children's picture book out of the library, and yeah, it's above my (very low) reading level. But I've also printed out the Korean subs for episode 8 of Guardian, and that's a bit more successful, since I know pretty well how it goes. I just need to make some more time.

Good things
Biking weather. Library books. Writing. Guardian. Guardian fanart. Cooking experiments. Podcasts and Youtube. Polls. Movie night with my sister. Figuring out I can play file types that aren't supported by my TV through my Blueray player. Flowering hibiscus and fruiting lemon tree. Boy and cat.

Poll #32985 vegetables
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 52


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fresh vegetables, bought
47 (90.4%)

fresh vegetables, homegrown
23 (44.2%)

frozen vegetables
24 (46.2%)

no vegetables
2 (3.8%)

other
4 (7.7%)

ticky-box of hanging in there until things settle down and I can sort my life out
33 (63.5%)

ticky-box of a lion librarian strangely obsessed with books/DVDs/resources on penguins
24 (46.2%)

ticky-box full of polls
25 (48.1%)

ticky-box full of sunbeams playing in a tree, daring each other to peek around the shadowed side
33 (63.5%)

ticky-box full of hugs
41 (78.8%)

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